The first step to supporting someone with miscarriage and learning how you may be able to cope as well, is to gather as much information as you can regarding the actual process. From there it may perhaps be easier to understand the emotions which accompany the loss. 

You might find it surprising, but many pregnancies end in miscarriage. Much of the information you will encounter speculate that approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. These statistics are most likely inaccurate however as many women may have miscarried before they even knew they were pregnant. In this situation, the pregnancy loss will simply appear to be the onset of her period. If these early pregnancy losses were considered, the actual incidence of miscarriage may be as high as 50-75%. 

A miscarriage is a loss of a pregnancy during the first 20 weeks of gestation which has taken place without any medication or medical intervention. In most cases, embryonic death occurs and the passage of your baby occurs vaginally. At times, your healthcare provider may need to assist with the removal of the embryo from the uterus. Additional information regarding the events and what to expect during a miscarriage will be discussed later. 

Many couples are left asking the question Why? While we will discuss some possibilities which may have resulted in the loss of your baby, there will always remain the likelihood that no one can answer that question with certainty. This may be the most difficult struggle in grieving and eventually accepting your loss. 

It is our hope that we may begin to answer some of the questions you have as a means to find your way through the fog of grief and learn how to support both your partner and your relationship with one another.